over the years I have 3x realized (last being this time) something is off about my parents.
it's crazy to me how people end up seeing all the assumed positives they didn't have and will admently reject the possibility of negatives while claiming they know ur situation better than u do.
it's like think for yourself got short-circuited somewhere and many only become capable of thinking about themselves and their situation regardless of if the pronouns indicate they might be talking about yours.
I can also say as far as I can see there is this twisted social pressure to assume that something exists in the brains of people that run the full range of decent to immoral... something poof added to brain when a child is born.
science has shown things like occtocin create bonds between humans and there's likely more we don't get but what there is not is evidence being a parent makes u good or good to your child automatic ly
I understand it's easier to belive otherwise thought. but ruling something out because the conclusion produces a negative feeling or emotion is the epitmy of foolish. ruling it out for someone else makes u at best a potential advocate for abusers. if the first was true this is probably a pretty sad thought as well. m but what I think many lose sight of is ur feelings and emotions and wanting to not feel bad need to end where you do. ie if you voice ur feelings and thoughts or rather vouce the not feel bad alternative because the conclusions is scarry negative or personally triggering.. not only does a disconnect and like gic shut down occure.. u helped create hell for others. I wouldn't doubt it's a similar hell to what people who end up this way go through. but it might be worse to lethal and discarding the posinilty of another's experience... cause u don't want to feel things..
my mom is a neonatal nurse practitioner who taught at st Kate's and worked in the nicu at children's hospitals and clinics in st paul mn. as far as I know the last bit is still where she is employed. for a while growing up she was the lead np as well.